with Marcia Epstein, LMSW
Lawrence, Kansas, USA
If you read all this and believe I may be a right person to work with, please see the info about how to start that possibility at Support Services.
Support for People Living With Suicide Grief
Support Group: Healing After Suicide Loss
Personal Support for Individuals or Groups of Friends-Family
THINGS WE KNOW ABOUT SUICIDE GRIEF:
- Grief is LOVE,
- Each very close person had a unique relationship with the person who died, and has their own way of grieving. Try not to judge yourself or each other.
- Whatever you are feeling, thinking, doing, … as long as you’re staying safe, it’s ok.
- You deserve to take really good care. As part of that, each day do something good just for you.
- You also deserve support from people who “get” you; and you have the right to limit your exposure to those who are not helpful to you.
- You have the right to decide how much you do or do not share with others.
- Few of us get to know the whole story of the why’s of our loved one’s death; and still we eventually are ready to stop asking why.
- Remember and hold tight to what you did RIGHT!
Personal Support for Individuals or Groups With Suicide Grief
Marcia Epstein, LMSW meets with teens, adults, families, or groups seeking support or information about suicide grief. Please see information at Support Services
Healing After Suicide Loss support group
Meets every other Tuesday evening from 6:30 – 8:15pm, on Zoom or in-person
Based in Lawrence, KS
Serving the Douglas County, KS & nearby area since 1990’s
This group is for any adult college-aged is living with suicide grief after the death of a friend, partner/spouse, or family member. New members are always welcome, no matter how recent, or long ago, the loss. Before someone attends a first meeting, new members have a conversation with Marcia Epstein, to help determine whether this group is likely to be what they are seeking. Members give and receive support and understanding about living with suicide grief. What is shared by participants remains confidential to those people. Concerns about imminent danger to self or others, prompt one-on-one discussion and safety planning with me.
Suicide is NEVER someone else’s fault. However, it is so common to feel guilty, and to feel blamed by others. We can’t take away the pain of your loss, but we can help you survive, and even thrive. Sharing and listening with others who’ve walked in similar shoes can truly make a difference.
Sadly, in our country the number of people dying by suicide is still on the increase. With an estimate of 135 people affected by each person’s death to suicide, the number of people affected is huge, and the pain from these losses is huge.
Donations to help keep free support available for people with suicide grief may be made to the “Survivors of Suicide” account at Central National Bank, Lawrence, Kansas. Donations are not tax-deductible.
For additional info about our group in Lawrence, Kansas, including meeting dates and location, please contact Marcia Epstein, LMSW by text or voicemail to 785.331.6440, or email to M.Epstein.LMSW@gmail.com
IN ADDITION TO SUPPORT MEETINGS:
~ Books about suicide bereavement for adults and for children are available for loan.
~ Annual Freedom of Expression and Thriving While Living With Suicide retreats for people living with suicide grief. We retreat to The Light Center, south and west of Lawrence, Kansas for some structured and unstructured time in that peaceful, rural setting, away from technology.
~ Annual Words Save Lives performance event on World Suicide Prevention Day, September 10
~ Annual International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day Community Workshop including group discussion, art activities, and information from the American Foundation For Suicide Prevention. This is always in November on the Saturday before American Thanksgiving.
SOME SUPPORTS FOR LIVING WITH SUICIDE GRIEF:
For some info about Grief from all causes, and some supports for living with that Grief:
- Alliance of Hope for Suicide Loss Survivors online groups & info https://allianceofhope.org/
- Alliance of Hope for Suicide Loss Survivors articles about “Supporting Children and Teens After A Suicide Death” https://allianceofhope.org/find-support/children-teens/supporting-children-and-teens-after-a-suicide-death/
- The Kansas City area support network SASS-MoKan, Suicide Awareness Survivor Support: Missouri
and Kansas firstname.lastname@example.org http://www.sass-mokan.com/
- The Topeka area support group HeALS, Healing After Loss To Suicide Topeka.Heals@gmail.com https://www.facebook.com/HEALsTopekaArea/
- For mental health providers with suicide grief from their professional and/or personal lives, Clinician Survivor Task Force, ClinicianSurvivor.org UPDATE: September 2021, the website is temporarily down. However the Clinician Survivor list-serv for support and information is still active. To join that list-serv, please contact one of the current Co-Chairs, Paula Marchese, or me, Marcia Epstein at M.Epstein.LMSW@gmail.com
- The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention website area https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone
- Online handout “Resources for Suicide Loss Survivors” from the American Association of Suicidology, https://suicidology.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Resources-for-Survivors-of-Suicide.pdf
- For Children, many helpful resources from The Dougy Center, the national center for grieving families and children https://www.dougy.org/
- The book It’s OK That You’re Not OK by Megan Devine (even though it’s not only about suicide grief) https://www.refugeingrief.com/book/
- The blogs at www.OurSideOfSuicide.com
- The Emotionally Naked blog of Anne Moss https://annemoss.com/
- Our Lawrence, KS based support group has a lending library of books about suicide grief. You are welcome to ask for suggestions, or if you’re in the Lawrence, KS area, to arrange to borrow books. One of the books is No Time To Say Goodbye by Carla Fine. This is still one that is particularly helpful to people whose spouse/partner died by suicide. Another is My Son, My Son, by Iris Bolton. This is the one that is particularly helpful after the suicide death of a child of any age. And it’s the first book specifically addressing suicide grief.
- Our Lawrence, KS based support group has Facebook “private group” Thriving While Living With Suicide for people who are part of that group.
Additional resources for and about survivors of suicide loss:
Although I am not able to keep this information constantly updated, some of the local and national resources at the above link may be helpful to you.
In the USA, Free, 24/7 Support for You or Someone Else
CRISIS TEXT LINE: text START to 741-741
NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE: 800-799-7233, https://www.thehotline.org/
NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE: 1.800.273.8255 or soon 988
RAINN, Rape Abuse Incest National Network, 800-656-HOPE (4673), https://www.rainn.org/
TRANS LIFELINE: staffed by trans and nonbinary people, for trans and nonbinary people,
https://TransLifeline.org , 877-565-8860
THE TREVOR PROJECT: for LGBTQ+ teen and young adults, hotline plus chat and text options
included on the website https://www.thetrevorproject.org/ 866-488-7386
VETERANS CRISIS LINE: hotline plus chat and text options included on the website
VeteransCrisisLine.net , 800-273-8255 Option 1 (soon to be through 988)
Plus, although not 24/7, NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) Helpline,
800-950-NAMI (6264) or email@example.com