with Marcia Epstein, LMSW
M.Epstein.LMSW@gmail.com
Lawrence, Kansas, USA

If you read all this and believe I may be a right person to work with, please see the info about how to start that possibility at Support Services.

Support for People Living With Suicide Grief
Support Group: Healing After Suicide Loss
Personal Support for Individuals or Groups of Friends-Family

THINGS WE KNOW ABOUT SUICIDE GRIEF:

• Grief is LOVE.
• Each very close person had a unique relationship with the person who died, and has their own way of grieving.  Try not to judge yourself or each other.
• Suicide grief has many facets, and represents the loss of this person in life, the loss of the person you were before this death, and the loss of the future that you had expected.
• There are no stages, timelines, or closure to grief.  There is healing, though.
• Whatever you are feeling, thinking, doing, … as long as you’re staying safe, it’s ok.
• Feelings are real and true.  Thoughts are not necessarily true.
• Suicide is NEVER someone else’s fault.  However, it is so common to feel guilty, and to sometimes feel blamed by others.
• You deserve to take really good care.  As part of that, each day do something good just for you.
• You also deserve support from people who “get” you; and you have the right to limit your exposure to those who are not helpful to you.
• You have the right to decide how much you do or do not share with others.
• Few of us get to know the whole story of the why’s of our loved one’s death; and still we eventually are ready to stop asking why.
• Remember and hold tight to what you did RIGHT!

Support for Individuals or Groups With Suicide Grief
Marcia Epstein, LMSW meets with teens, adults, families, or groups seeking support or information about suicide grief.  Please see information at Support Services

Healing After Suicide Loss support group
Meets every other Tuesday evening from 6:30 – 8:15pm, on Zoom or in-person
Based in Lawrence, KS
Serving the Douglas County, KS & nearby area since 1990’s
Donations appreciated

This group is for any adult (college-aged or above) who is living with grief after the suicide death of a friend, partner/spouse, family member, or other person who is important to you.  New members are always welcome, no matter how recent, or long ago, the loss. Before someone attends a first meeting, new members have a conversation with Marcia Epstein, to help determine whether this group is likely to provide what they are seeking.  We can’t take away the pain of your loss, but we can help you survive, and even thrive.  Sharing and listening with others who’ve walked in similar shoes can truly make a difference.

Members give and receive support and understanding about living with suicide grief.  What is shared by participants remains confidential to those people.  We share stories and mementos of our loved ones in life.  We cry and we laugh.  We recognize that our suicide grief is a layer in everything we experience.  Some of our sharing is about happy news, as well as challenges in “growing our lives” while holding our suicide grief in our hearts.  For the safety of all group members, any concern about imminent danger to self or others, will prompt one-on-one discussion and safety planning with Marcia.

With an estimate of 135 people affected by each person’s death to suicide, the number of people affected is huge, and the pain from these losses is huge.  Sadly, in our country the number of people dying by suicide is very high.  The USA has been experiencing higher and higher rates of suicide, with slight decreases in 2019-2020.  However 2020 included increases of suicide in people of color.  Other countries, even those with ready access to firearms, have not experienced similar increases.

Although no fee is required to participate in this support group, donations are greatly appreciated.

For additional info about our group in Lawrence, Kansas, including meeting dates and location, please contact Marcia Epstein, LMSW by text or voicemail to 785.331.6440, or email to M.Epstein.LMSW@gmail.com

IN ADDITION TO SUPPORT MEETINGS:
~ Every other week emails about our upcoming meetings, special events for people living with suicide grief, articles, and other helpful info.  Email M.Epstein.LMSW@gmail.com be added to this mailing list.
~ Books about suicide bereavement for adults and for children are available for loan.
~ Annual Freedom of Expression and Thriving While Living With Suicide retreats for people living with suicide grief.  We retreat to The Light Center, south and west of Lawrence, Kansas for some structured and unstructured time in that peaceful, rural setting, away from technology.
~ Annual Words Save Lives performance event on World Suicide Prevention Day, September 10
~ Annual International Survivors of Suicide  Loss Day Community Workshop including group discussion, art activities, and information from the American Foundation For Suicide Prevention.  This is always in November on the Saturday before American Thanksgiving.

SOME SUPPORTS FOR LIVING WITH SUICIDE GRIEF:
For some info about Grief from all causes, and some supports for living with that Grief:
https://marciaepstein.biz/counseling-services/counseling-services-grief/

• Alliance of Hope for Suicide Loss Survivors online groups & info   https://allianceofhope.org/
• Alliance of Hope for Suicide Loss Survivors articles about “Supporting Children and Teens After A Suicide Death”  https://allianceofhope.org/find-support/children-teens/supporting-children-and-teens-after-a-suicide-death/
• The Kansas City area support network SASS-MoKan, Suicide Awareness Survivor Support: Missouri and Kansas  info@sass-mokan.com  http://www.sass-mokan.com/
• The Topeka area support group HeALS, Healing After Loss To Suicide  Topeka.Heals@gmail.com  https://www.facebook.com/HEALsTopekaArea/
• For mental health providers with suicide grief from their professional and/or personal lives, Clinician Survivor Task Force, ClinicianSurvivor.org  UPDATE: September 2021, the website is temporarily down.  However the Clinician Survivor list-serv for support and information is still active.  To join that list-serv, please contact one of the current Co-Chairs, Paula Marchese, or me, Marcia Epstein at M.Epstein.LMSW@gmail.com
• The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention website area  https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone
• Online handout “Resources for Suicide Loss Survivors” from the American Association of Suicidology, https://suicidology.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Resources-for-Survivors-of-Suicide.pdf
• For Children, many helpful resources from The Dougy Center, the national center for grieving families and children https://www.dougy.org/
• The book It’s OK That You’re Not OK by Megan Devine (even though it’s not only about suicide grief)  https://www.refugeingrief.com/book/
• The blogs at www.OurSideOfSuicide.com
• The Emotionally Naked blog of Anne Moss https://annemoss.com/
• Our Lawrence, KS based support group has a lending library of books about suicide grief.  You are welcome to ask for suggestions, or if you’re in the Lawrence, KS area, to arrange to borrow books.  One of the books is No Time To Say Goodbye by Carla Fine.  This is still one that is particularly helpful to people whose spouse/partner died by suicide.   Another is My Son, My Son, by Iris Bolton.  This is the one that is particularly helpful after the suicide death of a child of any age.  And it’s the first book specifically addressing suicide grief.
• Our Lawrence, KS based support group has  Facebook “private group” Thriving While Living With Suicide for people who are part of that group.

Additional resources for and about survivors of suicide loss:
Although I am not able to keep this information constantly updated, some of the local and national resources at the above link may be helpful to you.

Donations to help keep  support available for people with suicide grief may be made to the “Survivors of Suicide” account at Central National Bank, Lawrence, Kansas.  Donations are not tax-deductible.

In the USA, Free, 24/7 Support for You or Someone Else
CRISIS TEXT LINE: text START to 741-741
NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE: 800-799-7233, https://www.thehotline.org/
NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE:  1.800.273.8255 or soon 988
RAINN, Rape Abuse Incest National Network, 800-656-HOPE (4673), https://www.rainn.org/
TRANS LIFELINE: staffed by trans and nonbinary people, for trans and nonbinary people,
https://TransLifeline.org , 877-565-8860
THE TREVOR PROJECT: for LGBTQ+ teen and young adults, hotline plus chat and text options
included on the website  https://www.thetrevorproject.org/  866-488-7386
VETERANS CRISIS LINE: hotline plus chat and text options included on the website
VeteransCrisisLine.net , 800-273-8255 Option 1 (soon to be through 988)
Plus, although not 24/7, NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) Helpline,
800-950-NAMI (6264) or info@nami.org